redefining L-O-V-E

In light of the statements below, I propose the following statement of Love:

it's possible to pull with someone in the same direction
have an understanding and respect for their life and person
to actively enourage the freedom to be their greatest self
and no less, to actively encourage oneself the freedom to grow

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there is enough time and romantic relationships can be worth it
it doesn't need or have to be hard
and if you stop moving for a while they're a lot easier to form
after all sedentary people live a very different kind of life

The Mad Ship (Liveship Traders trilogy) Robin Hobb
on how giving up oneself and freedom relates to love
or the difficulties of relationships where you pull together towards a common goal

"to love another person like that, you have to admit that his life is as important as yours. harder still, you have to admit to yourself that perhaps he has needs you cannot fill, and that you have tasks that will take you far away from him. it costs loneliness and longing and doubt and -"